You really dont need to change a lot of things these days, considering how beefy hosting servers have become as long as you give the gameserver enough memory to fill overtime you will be fine.
Xmx sets the maximum allocated memory for your JVM
Xms sets the starting one
Xmn sets both
I don't know how this would end up but you can either remove xmn or both xms and xmx
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